Self-love and self-acceptance is an important topic in the hair and beauty industry. Unfortunately, these industries have and still do portray beauty as something that we must create because it does not exist within us. “Maybe she’s born with it, maybe it’s Maybelline.” These are the messages that we are inundated with as consumers on a daily basis, they prey on insecurities with the goal of increasing sales and profit.
At Blossom, we strive to promote self-love. Our message will always be “come as you are”. We don’t want our products to change you, we want them to honor you.
To discuss self-love more in detail, we interviewed fellow curly-girl and self-love coach, Stephanie Verna.
When Stephanie isn’t working as a full-time IT trainer and part-time English teacher, she’s spreading her message of self-love on her blog, Instagram and Youtube channel Love, Learn, Bloom.
I’m a resilient warrior, fear-conqueror, and mountain-lover. In general, I am an introvert but if I am comfortable with someone, I will seem extroverted. I love learning and applying what I learn to level up different aspects of myself and my life.
Finish the sentence: Self-love is…
getting to know yourself deeply, embracing everything that makes you YOU, and loving yourself through every phase in your life.
When did you start blogging and making videos on self-love?
I’ve been blogging since 2009 but self-love was not my main topic. I took a break from blogging and decided to start a new blog on self-love in 2019.
I started my blog because I want to share all that helps me to be happy, healthy, and balanced, regardless of the challenges I’m facing, and it all stems from self-love. Helping others love themselves fully and be who they are created to be is what inspired me to create this blog. And, reaching as many people as possible with my message is what pushed me to create my YouTube channel.
In the natural hair community, we’ve seen a lot of progress in terms of self-acceptance and self-love. It’s not always easy to accept one’s curly or afro hair. Even if we flood our Instagram feeds with these images, this is not always reflected in mainstream media. Have you always loved your curly fro? If not, what helped you get there?
I’ve always liked my hair in all the different states it has been in, even if I’ve been frustrated with it sometimes. In 2005, I went to a barber and cut off all my hair, because I wanted to let it grow naturally, after seeing a picture of myself as a child, with a huge smile and a big fro. I had never really seen my hair like that before and fell in love with the happiness emanating from the picture. Back when I cut off all my hair, natural hair was not a trend. I didn’t become natural to be part of any community, nor did I do it to be rebellious. I think I just wanted to go back home to myself.
My advice for people who don’t like their hair is: embrace what God gave you. This is what makes each of us unique and beautiful.
What tips do you have to help someone on their journey to self-love and self-acceptance?
Self-love is not easy but very necessary if you want to truly be who you were created to be and live a happy life with fulfilling relationships. It all starts within you. Your love for yourself is the foundation for all the relationships you will have in your life. Do what suits YOU on your self-love journey. It’s not a one-size-fits-all journey. It’s not linear either. There will be ups and downs. Be patient and gentle with yourself. Have fun on this journey as well.
During the COVID quarantine, many of us became more active on social media to stay in touch with friends and family. What’s your view on achieving self-love in the age of social media:
“If your Instagram feed makes you feel inadequate, give it a makeover. Know that you are allowed to start over and have a new style of feed that is more aligned with yourself. If an account doesn’t inspire you, bring you joy and positivity, unfollow it. You don’t have to keep subjecting yourself to that. Part of self-love is doing what makes you feel good and cutting out what makes you feel bad (emotionally, mentally, physically or spiritually).”
What is your haircare regimen?
I shampoo once a week (in summer twice a week). Detangle with a conditioner in my hair. Once or twice a month, I do a hair rinse with fresh rosemary infused in hot water with a bit of apple cider vinegar. I leave the rinse on my hair and scalp for 5 to 10 minutes. Once a month, I do a hair mask. Every few months, I do a scalp scrub with a homemade recipe. Sometimes, before shampooing my hair, I oil my scalp and hair with a homemade recipe. I leave this on for a few hours or overnight. In between wash day, I might wet my hair and finger detangle to hydrate and refresh my strands. For styling, I use Blossom’s precious leave-in conditioner and oil.
What’s your self-care routine?
My self-care routine involves eating to nourish my body and prevent disease, moving or challenging my body through workouts, yoga or dance, taking baths, sleeping early, meditating, treating myself to something that will make me happy.
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. If readers would like to know more about your work, where can they find you?
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